Whatever happens in our lives, we attach a story to it. Someone threw a stone at our window, said something about us to a colleague at work, send us a greeting card, cut us off in traffic, it’s never only that. We create a story around it, the why, the who, the what, it becomes so much broader than the mere occurrence. We have to make sense of whatever is occurring, attaching both our mentation and imagination, our perception and interpretation, to what is going on. For better or worse, it creates the frame for our reality. There’s a chance to look outside of the frame, through introspection and a deep dive into the mental models and deeper beliefs based on which we we operate. It’s not easy but it can be done. Here are 3 recommendations on how to do it.
1. Sit in stillness
I believe the world would be a much more peaceful place if, from a young age, we learnt how to sit in silence, how to be with ourselves, observing, in a non-judgemental way, everything that comes up.
2. Talk to a professional
It could be a counselor, a psychologist, a psychotherapist, a monk…someone who is schooled in the arts of conscious living and wisdom.
3. Explore the deeper realms
Family constellation, spiritual retreats, personal growth events, get to know yourself, the spiritual being that you are who is having a human experience.